The Language Of Cutlery, The Signs And The Rules – What Is The Proper Etiquette For Cutlery

The internet is full of well-meaning but inaccurate information, and infographics about "plate language" are a prime example.  Here's a breakdown of the truth behind these myths and some genuine restaurant etiquette tips:
 
Myth Busters

• Ready for the Next Course—Your server will look for you and your table and know when to clear your plates for the next course.
• Disliked Course—If you dislike the course, it is your responsibility to speak to the server or maître d' and see what the restaurant can do for you. Remember to leave most of the meal on the plate. If you eat it all, you buy it!
• Excellent Course—Don't hold back; tell your server verbally. This will ensure more attention is paid to your table.
• Pausing and Resting—It is the wrong method of pausing. See the next slide.
• Your Service Was Bad—If the server's service was particularly bad, it is your responsibility to inform the maître d'.
• Bring the Complaints Book—Are you joking???  What restaurant has this book?

 
Please note that no restaurant on this earth has ever taught their staff the above 'plate language', and in my lifetime of eating at restaurants, have I ever seen a business associate, friend or family do this either?

​Genuine Restaurant Etiquette Tips

• Pausing—As set out below, There are two types of pausing indicators. The one you use will depend on the continent you are dining on.
• Finishing—As set out below, There are two types of finishing indicators. The one you use will depend on the continent in which you are dining.
• Non-Verbal Cues—A slight head tilt towards your server or making eye contact can subtly indicate that you're ready for the next course.
• Communication is Key— If you have any issues with your meal, politely speak to your server or the manager. They'll be happy to help rectify the situation.
• Verbal Appreciation—While not essential, a genuine compliment to your server about the food or service goes a long way.
• Thank You—Always express your gratitude to the staff for their service.

Conclusion
By following these simple tips, you can ensure a smooth and enjoyable dining experience for yourself and those around you. Remember, etiquette is about being respectful and courteous, not about following a rigid set of rules.
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Bonus Tip
Be mindful of your phone use at the table. Consider putting it away so you can fully engage in conversation and appreciate the company you're with.