ETIQUETTE gives you CONFIDENCE
benefits of etiquette
"I want to feel more confident when conversing and interacting with others.
I want to use etiquette's advantages in my personal and working circles.
I want to teach my child to show mindfulness in how they present.
I'm looking for that extra polish to enhance my professional and personal life.
Looking for an experience where I can grow and continue on my journey.
I want to change my current ways of doing things.
I need someone to positively reinforce manners to my child that I value."
I want to use etiquette's advantages in my personal and working circles.
I want to teach my child to show mindfulness in how they present.
I'm looking for that extra polish to enhance my professional and personal life.
Looking for an experience where I can grow and continue on my journey.
I want to change my current ways of doing things.
I need someone to positively reinforce manners to my child that I value."
Have you heard yourself stating these things quietly to yourself or with friends over a coffee? I did when I was younger and inexperienced. I always thought etiquette schools were for royalty, celebrities and their children or finishing school for the bourgeoisie. Well, today, etiquette schools are more attuned to society's modern needs, focusing on mindfulness, professionalism and confidence.
THE BENEFIT OF ETIQUETTE
You've probably heard that using etiquette is good for you, but you may not be acquainted with the many ways that using etiquette can improve your confidence and help you deal with most situations that can come your way. In fact, there are at least seven benefits. Some benefits are noticed right away, which can assure you that knowing the principles of etiquette for social and business matters, you are making a good choice.
Researchers have uncovered that people who are more aware of intrinsic motivations-internal motivations are more likely to frequently include etiquette in everyday activities, gaining satisfaction. Here's a list of the immediate benefits many notices.
Using etiquette... As described by Pier Forni, Professor at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, "the rules of good manners are the traffic lights of human interaction, they make it so that we don’t crash into one another in everyday behavior."
DID YOU KNOW THAT ETIQUETTE THAT LASTS A LIFETIME!
The use of etiquette or protocol goes beyond what to do when meeting an important dignitary or using your manners with the new in-laws. According to Sir Asher Joel explain “Protocol and procedure is not, after all, a static process, but one which reflects with great accuracy the changing nature of a community and its practices.”
THE BENEFIT OF ETIQUETTE
You've probably heard that using etiquette is good for you, but you may not be acquainted with the many ways that using etiquette can improve your confidence and help you deal with most situations that can come your way. In fact, there are at least seven benefits. Some benefits are noticed right away, which can assure you that knowing the principles of etiquette for social and business matters, you are making a good choice.
Researchers have uncovered that people who are more aware of intrinsic motivations-internal motivations are more likely to frequently include etiquette in everyday activities, gaining satisfaction. Here's a list of the immediate benefits many notices.
Using etiquette... As described by Pier Forni, Professor at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, "the rules of good manners are the traffic lights of human interaction, they make it so that we don’t crash into one another in everyday behavior."
- Displaying etiquette helps with unity, respect and dignity.
- Assists in building strong relationships.
- Understanding etiquette can aid people to avoid negative situations.
- Encourages cross-cultural awareness.
- It provides a positive impact on people around you.
- Builds confidence and self-esteem, and awareness.
- Etiquette is a guide to managing social and professional connections.
DID YOU KNOW THAT ETIQUETTE THAT LASTS A LIFETIME!
The use of etiquette or protocol goes beyond what to do when meeting an important dignitary or using your manners with the new in-laws. According to Sir Asher Joel explain “Protocol and procedure is not, after all, a static process, but one which reflects with great accuracy the changing nature of a community and its practices.”
Etiquette is elegance, grace and is timeless.
Knowing manners will be used by my child when I am not there.
I can give my children a head-start in life and teach them what I have been taught.
Etiquette is interpersonal relationships, self-assurance, and trust-building.
Even after I leave, I have left the best impression that will be remembered in the right way.
Knowing the principles behind etiquette makes life easier.
Courtesy is about mindfulness and has a real purpose.
It eliminates the guesswork and improves social and business skills.
Assists in avoiding time-consuming mistakes and online misinformation.
Streamlines your learning process, building social and professional confidence.
It involves hospitality and generosity towards others.
Knowing manners will be used by my child when I am not there.
I can give my children a head-start in life and teach them what I have been taught.
Etiquette is interpersonal relationships, self-assurance, and trust-building.
Even after I leave, I have left the best impression that will be remembered in the right way.
Knowing the principles behind etiquette makes life easier.
Courtesy is about mindfulness and has a real purpose.
It eliminates the guesswork and improves social and business skills.
Assists in avoiding time-consuming mistakes and online misinformation.
Streamlines your learning process, building social and professional confidence.
It involves hospitality and generosity towards others.
Understanding etiquette, research has shown, that when used it has "universal appeal... simplifies complicated situations....it helps us connect with others, increases our tolerance for challenging situations...and inspires us to ‘go the distance’." Corazzini et al., 2005
Now that you know how etiquette can help you and that it is a life skill, you can adjust to any situation. Will you go the distance and understand more about etiquette?
Now that you know how etiquette can help you and that it is a life skill, you can adjust to any situation. Will you go the distance and understand more about etiquette?
The Coronation of King Charles III and Queen Consort Camilla
This coming May, millions of people around the world will gather in front of television sets and computer screens, to watch what to many, is a once in a blue moon event. Like a rather rare celestial event, the coronation of King Charles III and Queen Camilla of England, will be watched with great anticipation, and with many questions in people’s minds.
Who will be in attendance? Will it just be working Royals and the landed gentry? Or will it include commoners or nonworking Royals, who have travelled in for the event? Who will be participating in the ceremony? Will favoured charities have members in attendance? Everyone wants a seat to see the leader of this new slimmed down monarchy crowned King. Who are those favoured few who have already received “save the date” emails from Buckingham Palace. No one knows for certain.
Other questions have had the talking heads on radio, television and podcasts asking about the traditions which have long been the standard for British coronations. Will Charles and Camilla be sticking with tradition? Or will they stray from the norm. Will traditions evolve to include changes in Royal protocol? Many in the news are speculating. But we really won’t know everything until the 6th of May.
The protocol of coronations in Great Britain goes back over 1000 years. Gleaning from European traditions, government and religion entwined and evolved over time to bring us what we have seen in the coronation of Queen Elizabeth II in 1953 and soon, King Charles III and his Queen, this May.
Who will be in attendance? Will it just be working Royals and the landed gentry? Or will it include commoners or nonworking Royals, who have travelled in for the event? Who will be participating in the ceremony? Will favoured charities have members in attendance? Everyone wants a seat to see the leader of this new slimmed down monarchy crowned King. Who are those favoured few who have already received “save the date” emails from Buckingham Palace. No one knows for certain.
Other questions have had the talking heads on radio, television and podcasts asking about the traditions which have long been the standard for British coronations. Will Charles and Camilla be sticking with tradition? Or will they stray from the norm. Will traditions evolve to include changes in Royal protocol? Many in the news are speculating. But we really won’t know everything until the 6th of May.
The protocol of coronations in Great Britain goes back over 1000 years. Gleaning from European traditions, government and religion entwined and evolved over time to bring us what we have seen in the coronation of Queen Elizabeth II in 1953 and soon, King Charles III and his Queen, this May.
What To Expect
What can you expect at a coronation today? The ultimate guidebook for the Royal family is Liber Regalis (Royal Book), created in 1382. It has assisted members for over 600 years in organising this state event. This book may have captured elements of the event created by Saint Dunstan for King Edgar’s coronation ceremony at Bath Abbey in 973. Then in 1066, the crowing of William the Conqueror saw proceedings take place at Westminster Abby, where it remains today.
When Did It All Start
As Queen Elizabeth II was Lying-in-State and the fully planned State Funeral was being held, the organisation for the crowning of King Charles III began. The significant players overseeing this momentous event are the coronation committee comprising the Government of the United Kingdom, the Royal Household, the Privy Council and the Church of England. What do these bodies need to consider when planning a coronation? The coronation date, its proclamation, the price, who attends, the required furniture, music and the honours conferred to mark the grand occasion.
Of course, modern safety laws have to be adhered to, so the number of those in attendance has already been slashed by the thousands. Many are already disappointed, fearing they will never receive the coveted email and confirmation of their expected attendance from Buckingham Palace. And if someone does receive a coveted email to attend the coronation, does that mean all is well? Some members of the peerage, who wear their coronets and robes only at a coronation, have waited a lifetime for this opportunity. Will they be disheartened in the end?
Rumour has it that disappointed duchesses have had a traditional key role of theirs dismantled in the coronation ceremony. The queen wants her five grandchildren to take centre stage at the coronation alongside the King’s royal heirs, performing a role previously given to duchesses. This role has in coronations past, been performed as the new Queen is anointed with holy oil. And what of the new King’s pledge to make the coronation more inclusive of other religions? In the ceremony, the Archbishop of Canterbury by tradition, asks the King three lengthy questions. These are specifically regarding the Church of England. The coronation has now been shortened to one hour from the original three hours. Will those questions by the Archbishop be shortened or eliminated altogether? Will they and actually include the mention of other religions?
What can you expect at a coronation today? The ultimate guidebook for the Royal family is Liber Regalis (Royal Book), created in 1382. It has assisted members for over 600 years in organising this state event. This book may have captured elements of the event created by Saint Dunstan for King Edgar’s coronation ceremony at Bath Abbey in 973. Then in 1066, the crowing of William the Conqueror saw proceedings take place at Westminster Abby, where it remains today.
When Did It All Start
As Queen Elizabeth II was Lying-in-State and the fully planned State Funeral was being held, the organisation for the crowning of King Charles III began. The significant players overseeing this momentous event are the coronation committee comprising the Government of the United Kingdom, the Royal Household, the Privy Council and the Church of England. What do these bodies need to consider when planning a coronation? The coronation date, its proclamation, the price, who attends, the required furniture, music and the honours conferred to mark the grand occasion.
Of course, modern safety laws have to be adhered to, so the number of those in attendance has already been slashed by the thousands. Many are already disappointed, fearing they will never receive the coveted email and confirmation of their expected attendance from Buckingham Palace. And if someone does receive a coveted email to attend the coronation, does that mean all is well? Some members of the peerage, who wear their coronets and robes only at a coronation, have waited a lifetime for this opportunity. Will they be disheartened in the end?
Rumour has it that disappointed duchesses have had a traditional key role of theirs dismantled in the coronation ceremony. The queen wants her five grandchildren to take centre stage at the coronation alongside the King’s royal heirs, performing a role previously given to duchesses. This role has in coronations past, been performed as the new Queen is anointed with holy oil. And what of the new King’s pledge to make the coronation more inclusive of other religions? In the ceremony, the Archbishop of Canterbury by tradition, asks the King three lengthy questions. These are specifically regarding the Church of England. The coronation has now been shortened to one hour from the original three hours. Will those questions by the Archbishop be shortened or eliminated altogether? Will they and actually include the mention of other religions?
For more about the Coronation at Westminster Abbey, please go to >> westminister-abbey.org
The Crowning Event
The main event occurs at Westminster Abbey, where the King will be escorted by carriage from Buckingham Palace. Rumor has it that the very uncomfortable, but exquisite gold carriage, that previous Kings and Queens have used for the ceremony, will not be used in May. Will this have the look of an ordinary, albeit exciting royal wedding, instead of an extraordinary coronation?
Once there, the Procession to the Abbey begins quickly to move to the Procession inside the Abby. There begins The Recognition of King Charles III. After that, one can expect hymns to be sung during and after the Coronation Oath and The Anointing. The Homage is where the highly anticipated and photographed moment of a coronation occurs, where King Charles III is given the Orb placed into his right hand and the Scepter, which he holds with his left hand, as well as golden bracelets and a ring. Once this occurs, the choir will sing anthems, drums beats, trumpets sound, and joyful crying out to mark the crowing of Great Britain's new King.
Camilla, The Queen Consort, will be crowned after the Homage takes place. Once that is complete, the departure will occur, and esteemed guests, family and hosts will make their way from Westminster Abbey to Buckingham Palace to be seen by thousands of onlookers and broadcasted to millions. The King and the Queen Consort, along with the Members of the Royal Family, will assemble for a perfectly Instagramable balcony appearance. The day ends with a Coronation banquet.
Life After The Crown
In the days and months after the Coronation, there will be many public opportunities for the new King and Queen to meet their subjects. These traditionally begin with a Coronation Review of the Fleet, Service of thanksgiving, UK and Commonwealth tours, Coronation portraits, and most importantly, the Investiture of the Prince of Wales. The Investiture tells the world who will be the next in succession to the throne.
The main event occurs at Westminster Abbey, where the King will be escorted by carriage from Buckingham Palace. Rumor has it that the very uncomfortable, but exquisite gold carriage, that previous Kings and Queens have used for the ceremony, will not be used in May. Will this have the look of an ordinary, albeit exciting royal wedding, instead of an extraordinary coronation?
Once there, the Procession to the Abbey begins quickly to move to the Procession inside the Abby. There begins The Recognition of King Charles III. After that, one can expect hymns to be sung during and after the Coronation Oath and The Anointing. The Homage is where the highly anticipated and photographed moment of a coronation occurs, where King Charles III is given the Orb placed into his right hand and the Scepter, which he holds with his left hand, as well as golden bracelets and a ring. Once this occurs, the choir will sing anthems, drums beats, trumpets sound, and joyful crying out to mark the crowing of Great Britain's new King.
Camilla, The Queen Consort, will be crowned after the Homage takes place. Once that is complete, the departure will occur, and esteemed guests, family and hosts will make their way from Westminster Abbey to Buckingham Palace to be seen by thousands of onlookers and broadcasted to millions. The King and the Queen Consort, along with the Members of the Royal Family, will assemble for a perfectly Instagramable balcony appearance. The day ends with a Coronation banquet.
Life After The Crown
In the days and months after the Coronation, there will be many public opportunities for the new King and Queen to meet their subjects. These traditionally begin with a Coronation Review of the Fleet, Service of thanksgiving, UK and Commonwealth tours, Coronation portraits, and most importantly, the Investiture of the Prince of Wales. The Investiture tells the world who will be the next in succession to the throne.
For more about the Coronation, please go to >> cornontion.gov.uk
Will Your Next Fine Dining Experience Be a Michelin One?
On most people’s bucket lists is visiting an exotic location or a Michelin-starred restaurant. The Michelin guidebook has been luring hungry travellers to fine dining establishments for over ninety years. Michelin invokes the feeling of being transported to the annual Academy Awards, a billionaire playground, or a chance to meet a celebrated MasterChef.
Visiting one or more of these restaurants worldwide is a pleasure and a panic! Why? Being confronted with different types of cutlery, glasses or a modernistic table setting. On the outside, you may be smiling, but hell has broken loose on the inside. Here is a succession of tips and tricks to keep you looking like-you-know-what-you-are-doing and looking sophisticated while you dine.
Visiting one or more of these restaurants worldwide is a pleasure and a panic! Why? Being confronted with different types of cutlery, glasses or a modernistic table setting. On the outside, you may be smiling, but hell has broken loose on the inside. Here is a succession of tips and tricks to keep you looking like-you-know-what-you-are-doing and looking sophisticated while you dine.
Biding Your Time
Restaurants such as Sukiyabashi Jiro, Tokyo, Japan or Talula’s Table, Pennsylvania, USA, are so heavily booked that there is a waiting period of months, not days, for your reservation. Today many restaurants will have an online or call-in service to book a table. Do this in advance rather than chancing it and turning up expecting a table is magically made available for your party of five. Just remember, if you are with Lady Gaga, perhaps a table will be whisked out of nowhere and placed in the best part of the restaurant. A good restaurant in the booking phase will ask about allergies, most importantly.
Restaurants such as Sukiyabashi Jiro, Tokyo, Japan or Talula’s Table, Pennsylvania, USA, are so heavily booked that there is a waiting period of months, not days, for your reservation. Today many restaurants will have an online or call-in service to book a table. Do this in advance rather than chancing it and turning up expecting a table is magically made available for your party of five. Just remember, if you are with Lady Gaga, perhaps a table will be whisked out of nowhere and placed in the best part of the restaurant. A good restaurant in the booking phase will ask about allergies, most importantly.
Address staff by their name – famous author Dale Carnegie stated that “a person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Why not use your maître d’ and server's name to get that extra service? When someone uses my name, I feel elated and want to go out on a limb for that person.
Using Your Dining Etiquette
A casual dining restaurant generally will be a large room or two, and upon entry, you will pass an exposed cash register with the kitchen behind and a restroom not too far away. Purpose-made restaurants will have an entrance where the maître d’ will meet you with a cloakroom and a small reception desk as you walk in. Casual dining, you will be seated straight away with a drinks order taken; conversely high-end dining, you may start your journey at the bar and given a menu to peruse before being escorted to your table.
Once seated, in your casual dining experience you may be confronted with paper serviettes neatly squeezed into a stainless dispenser. Nothing shouts ‘luxury’ as a crisp, starched linen napkins! Once seated swiftly take the napkin from the place setting, unfolding without showing other diners you have attended ‘Running Of The Bull's’ in Pamplona, Spain, sliding it on your lap with the crease facing your stomach area.
Your server may give you slices of bread or rolls. This is not the time to fill yourself up on bread and butter or make a sandwich. A good restaurant will have a plate relegated for this crusty item. The etiquette for bread is that it should never leave the plate instead of breaking bread as you butter each piece with your fingers, which is the only time to handle food without cutlery.
Silverware should be used correctly when dining in casual or high-end restaurants. For flawless service, your server should pair the correct silver to your selected menu. If you have chosen steak, a steak knife will accompany. Crab - seafood pick, oyster – an oyster fork will be added to your setting.
A casual dining restaurant generally will be a large room or two, and upon entry, you will pass an exposed cash register with the kitchen behind and a restroom not too far away. Purpose-made restaurants will have an entrance where the maître d’ will meet you with a cloakroom and a small reception desk as you walk in. Casual dining, you will be seated straight away with a drinks order taken; conversely high-end dining, you may start your journey at the bar and given a menu to peruse before being escorted to your table.
Once seated, in your casual dining experience you may be confronted with paper serviettes neatly squeezed into a stainless dispenser. Nothing shouts ‘luxury’ as a crisp, starched linen napkins! Once seated swiftly take the napkin from the place setting, unfolding without showing other diners you have attended ‘Running Of The Bull's’ in Pamplona, Spain, sliding it on your lap with the crease facing your stomach area.
Your server may give you slices of bread or rolls. This is not the time to fill yourself up on bread and butter or make a sandwich. A good restaurant will have a plate relegated for this crusty item. The etiquette for bread is that it should never leave the plate instead of breaking bread as you butter each piece with your fingers, which is the only time to handle food without cutlery.
Silverware should be used correctly when dining in casual or high-end restaurants. For flawless service, your server should pair the correct silver to your selected menu. If you have chosen steak, a steak knife will accompany. Crab - seafood pick, oyster – an oyster fork will be added to your setting.
To Michelin Or Not To Michelin
How does a restaurant become listed in the Michelin Guidebook? A team of inspectors book anonymously and follow a comprehensive list of topics from the client to the culinary experience. After the field test, these incognito inspectors gather to present their findings as well to consider who will be awarded a Michelin Guide star rating:
How does a restaurant become listed in the Michelin Guidebook? A team of inspectors book anonymously and follow a comprehensive list of topics from the client to the culinary experience. After the field test, these incognito inspectors gather to present their findings as well to consider who will be awarded a Michelin Guide star rating:
One star: A very good restaurant in its category.
Two stars: Excellent cooking, worth a detour.
Three stars: Exceptional cuisine, worth a special journey.
Two stars: Excellent cooking, worth a detour.
Three stars: Exceptional cuisine, worth a special journey.
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Sorting Out the Sommelier
Many start hyperventilating and want to hide under the table when a sommelier walks by, believing that the restaurant has employed them to upsell. Fine dining establishments will have trained wine professionals whose only job is to, advice and serve on the wine selection. Next time you dine, why not test out your sommelier's knowledge and give them your guidelines to what you enjoy and meet in the middle?
Researchers have discovered that a glass's shape can enhance the wine's aroma and taste. Glasses created for red wines are usually more giant bowls to help oxidise the wine at room temperature. White wines have a smaller bowl for the oxidation to happen at a slower rate. The champagne flute assists in keeping the bubbles from escaping. Always hold the steam at the bottom away from the glass bowl to keep your wine from heating up. Suppose you are wearing lip balm or lipstick, it’s advisable to keep drinking from one area rather than leaving a ring of makeup for fellow dinners to view. The recommendation is still water between courses to neutralise your palette in readiness for the next class and pairing. For a more detailed wine glass guide, go to Riedel.
Many start hyperventilating and want to hide under the table when a sommelier walks by, believing that the restaurant has employed them to upsell. Fine dining establishments will have trained wine professionals whose only job is to, advice and serve on the wine selection. Next time you dine, why not test out your sommelier's knowledge and give them your guidelines to what you enjoy and meet in the middle?
Researchers have discovered that a glass's shape can enhance the wine's aroma and taste. Glasses created for red wines are usually more giant bowls to help oxidise the wine at room temperature. White wines have a smaller bowl for the oxidation to happen at a slower rate. The champagne flute assists in keeping the bubbles from escaping. Always hold the steam at the bottom away from the glass bowl to keep your wine from heating up. Suppose you are wearing lip balm or lipstick, it’s advisable to keep drinking from one area rather than leaving a ring of makeup for fellow dinners to view. The recommendation is still water between courses to neutralise your palette in readiness for the next class and pairing. For a more detailed wine glass guide, go to Riedel.
Differences Between Casual and High End Dining
The chef’s pride and joy is the menu; it is the culmination of blood, sweat and tears of practice, experience and know-how presented in a number of ways: full course menu, menu degustation with an accompanying wine menu. Smaller restaurants serve all year-round menus without many changes. Those reaching for perfection choose seasonal produce, variety and creativity. A fine dining situation staff dressed in crisp white or black (to blend in) will be trained to flawlessly explain each dish, if asked.
Menus can come in all ways of presentations, laminated, with all the paper real estate taken up. Top notch chefs will think about the menu layout, dish description, and cooking technique with a suggestion of wine paring, finishing it with sleek minimalism. I have seen many different ways diners have handled a menu, such as the ‘FBI secret service’ look, where diners ensconce themselves behind the whole menu or use it as a fan and wave to staff to get their attention or bending right over as through looking through their uncles ‘last will and testament’. The right way is to prop the menu on the table's edge while reading. It will be the same method as where you place your wrists not your elbows!
When your food is plated, chefs can go to extraordinary lengths to get the plating and presentation ‘right’, or with casual dining; it’s a case of the ‘Yotam Ottolenghi’ style plating. How will you handle your plate if there are bones or pips? You? are placing this neatly in the upper left-hand part of your plate, keeping the rim food-free for your server to handle your finished dish without it flying out of their hands onto the manicured floor.
The chef’s pride and joy is the menu; it is the culmination of blood, sweat and tears of practice, experience and know-how presented in a number of ways: full course menu, menu degustation with an accompanying wine menu. Smaller restaurants serve all year-round menus without many changes. Those reaching for perfection choose seasonal produce, variety and creativity. A fine dining situation staff dressed in crisp white or black (to blend in) will be trained to flawlessly explain each dish, if asked.
Menus can come in all ways of presentations, laminated, with all the paper real estate taken up. Top notch chefs will think about the menu layout, dish description, and cooking technique with a suggestion of wine paring, finishing it with sleek minimalism. I have seen many different ways diners have handled a menu, such as the ‘FBI secret service’ look, where diners ensconce themselves behind the whole menu or use it as a fan and wave to staff to get their attention or bending right over as through looking through their uncles ‘last will and testament’. The right way is to prop the menu on the table's edge while reading. It will be the same method as where you place your wrists not your elbows!
When your food is plated, chefs can go to extraordinary lengths to get the plating and presentation ‘right’, or with casual dining; it’s a case of the ‘Yotam Ottolenghi’ style plating. How will you handle your plate if there are bones or pips? You? are placing this neatly in the upper left-hand part of your plate, keeping the rim food-free for your server to handle your finished dish without it flying out of their hands onto the manicured floor.
Hollywood has immortalised the scene where a customer in a restaurant chastises the server, and staff go running scared, bending backwards to keep the client happy. Today it's a different story, there are many ways to be 'heard'. Most immediate complaints, such as discovering an unknown object in your food, just catch the eye of your server and explain quickly and politely for a replacement meal. If you feel the need to provide 'feedback' to the restaurant, please send an email. You never want to end up as the food critic in a deleted movie scene in 'Burnt' featuring Bradley Cooper. As the owner and chef, he calmly folds up the tablecloth and takes away all plates, drinks and food in front of uptown clientele, telling him to apologise and go elsewhere! Ouch!!
A Modern Challenge
In the Michelin Guide you will find many restaurants that challenge the way you view food including the way you eat it to enhance the dining experience. Many chefs transport you for a few hours to table that is laden with new and modernistic implements and plateware such as Restaurante Andreu Genestra in Majorca, Spain, using farm tools to serve food or Ultraviolet in Shanghai, China employing multi-sensory technology whilst you eat. The best way to know how to use these fancy items is to research….stalk like you would stalk a new-years sale. Look at photos on Instagram, Google, use the hashtag. The internet is littered with trillions of photos and you will soon see what to do, making you look like a pro.
In the Michelin Guide you will find many restaurants that challenge the way you view food including the way you eat it to enhance the dining experience. Many chefs transport you for a few hours to table that is laden with new and modernistic implements and plateware such as Restaurante Andreu Genestra in Majorca, Spain, using farm tools to serve food or Ultraviolet in Shanghai, China employing multi-sensory technology whilst you eat. The best way to know how to use these fancy items is to research….stalk like you would stalk a new-years sale. Look at photos on Instagram, Google, use the hashtag. The internet is littered with trillions of photos and you will soon see what to do, making you look like a pro.
An Editorial Article about HRH The Crown Princess, Mary Elizabeth, Her Royal Highness Crown Princess, Crown Princess of Denmark, Countess of Monpezat."
HRH The Crown Princess New Official Galla Portraits of The Crown Prince Couple Kongehuset Photo Hasse Nielsen ©
Today I am highlighting someone that I consider a wonderful example and a champion of the Danish and Australian people, Mary Elizabeth, Her Royal Highness Crown Princess, Crown Princess of Denmark, Countess of Monpezat. I am pleased to give you an editorial series that positively talks about Princess Mary and her achievements and the mark she has left for generations to come. In the month of February, I will be spotlighting areas of Princess Mary and the Royal Danish Court:
Princess Mary in her role as HRH
History of the Danish Royal Family
Etiquette of Royal Families
Royal Dining Etiquette
Princess Mary in her role as HRH
History of the Danish Royal Family
Etiquette of Royal Families
Royal Dining Etiquette
Princess Mary in her role as HRH
Why have I focused on Crown Princess Mary today? Many I speak to admire Princess Mary. Who would have thought an Australian making their way into a notable Scandinavian royal family! Well, she did it on the premises of love. Let’s get to know the Crown Princess better. The Crown Princess was born Hobart, Tasmania, Australia as Mary Elizabeth Donaldson. She is the youngest daughter parent to John Donaldson and Henrietta Donaldson; The Crown Princess has two sisters and one brother. Where is Tasmania you may ask? It is a small island that makes up the seven states of Australia. Tasmania is known as the ‘island of contrasts’ where you can hike on rugged mountains, bathe in cleanest coastlines, picnic in the calmest bays, walk in native forests and the eat freshest produce you can find in Australia.
The Crown Princess Early Years
The Crown Princess’s early years began in Texas. Returning to Hobart, The Crown Princess attended school the University of Tasmania graduating with a bachelor’s degree in Commerce and Law. Her further education continued, working for advertising agencies in Melbourne, Australia.
Princess Mary was already well-travelled in her younger years and came from an emigree family that originated from Scotland. After achieving a university education and working in her areas of expertise, she travelled throughout Europe and the United Kingdom which included Scotland. Princess Mary worked in Scotland and for a short time in Paris, Melbourne and Sydney.
The Crown Princess Early Years
The Crown Princess’s early years began in Texas. Returning to Hobart, The Crown Princess attended school the University of Tasmania graduating with a bachelor’s degree in Commerce and Law. Her further education continued, working for advertising agencies in Melbourne, Australia.
Princess Mary was already well-travelled in her younger years and came from an emigree family that originated from Scotland. After achieving a university education and working in her areas of expertise, she travelled throughout Europe and the United Kingdom which included Scotland. Princess Mary worked in Scotland and for a short time in Paris, Melbourne and Sydney.
New Official Galla Portraits of The Crown Prince Couple Kongehuset Photo Hasse Nielsen ©
Princess Mary Today
Since her marriage Crown Prince Frederik of Denmark, Princess's Mary has learnt to speak, fluently in Danish. Danish is not an easy language to learn however over time she has been able to be accomplished in this Nordic language. Her acceptance of the Danish culture can be seen in many family photos. You will see her dressed in national costume wearing traditional clothing from The Kingdom of Denmark and Greenland.
The Crown Prince Couple resides with their family in Frederik VIII’s Palace at Amalienborg and in the Chancellery House at Fredensborg Palace. To assist Princess Mary to accomplish her many roles and look after the day-to-day palace many routines, available to her the secretariat, service unit and household staff. The staff assist her in making international visits, attend ceremonies, making visits to Danish forces around the world.
Princess The Advocate
Princess's Mary is a passionate advocate for disadvantaged migrants, integration and fundraising projects, health and empowerment focusing on women, adolescent girls and children. You can find her to be the patron of The Alannah and Madeline Foundation, Twins Research Australia, Healthcare Denmark, University of Tasmania, European Emergency Medical Services Congress, Danish Cultural Institute. In 2007 Princess Mary announced the opening of the Mary Foundation which dedicates funds focusing on three areas such as bullying, well-being, domestic violence and loneliness.
After marriage in 2004, throughout her years, Princess Mary has displayed an elegant, timeless and classic style and has featured in Vanity Fair’s annual best-dressed list, Vogue Australia, Germany, Woman Weekly Australia. She makes a point to wear Danish designers clothing and jewellery which has made famous brands such as Ole Lynggaard Jewellery, Copenhagen designer David Andersen.
Perhaps one day we will see Princess Mary will be the first Australian-born to be queen consort upon the ascension of her husband!
Since her marriage Crown Prince Frederik of Denmark, Princess's Mary has learnt to speak, fluently in Danish. Danish is not an easy language to learn however over time she has been able to be accomplished in this Nordic language. Her acceptance of the Danish culture can be seen in many family photos. You will see her dressed in national costume wearing traditional clothing from The Kingdom of Denmark and Greenland.
The Crown Prince Couple resides with their family in Frederik VIII’s Palace at Amalienborg and in the Chancellery House at Fredensborg Palace. To assist Princess Mary to accomplish her many roles and look after the day-to-day palace many routines, available to her the secretariat, service unit and household staff. The staff assist her in making international visits, attend ceremonies, making visits to Danish forces around the world.
Princess The Advocate
Princess's Mary is a passionate advocate for disadvantaged migrants, integration and fundraising projects, health and empowerment focusing on women, adolescent girls and children. You can find her to be the patron of The Alannah and Madeline Foundation, Twins Research Australia, Healthcare Denmark, University of Tasmania, European Emergency Medical Services Congress, Danish Cultural Institute. In 2007 Princess Mary announced the opening of the Mary Foundation which dedicates funds focusing on three areas such as bullying, well-being, domestic violence and loneliness.
After marriage in 2004, throughout her years, Princess Mary has displayed an elegant, timeless and classic style and has featured in Vanity Fair’s annual best-dressed list, Vogue Australia, Germany, Woman Weekly Australia. She makes a point to wear Danish designers clothing and jewellery which has made famous brands such as Ole Lynggaard Jewellery, Copenhagen designer David Andersen.
Perhaps one day we will see Princess Mary will be the first Australian-born to be queen consort upon the ascension of her husband!
History of the Danish Royal Family
The 50 years anniversary of HM The Queen’s accession to the throne Family Photo Photo Steen Brogaard, Kongehuset ©
Quick Peek Into The History of the Danish Royal Family
The Kingdom of Denmark was united by the 8th century under King Gudfred; however, from the 9th century onwards, it was reunited by the Viking king Gorm the Old and Harald Bluetooth as an elective monarchy. It then became hereditary from the 17th century onwards during the reign of Frederick III.
Today the Danish Royal House is from a princely branch of the family Oldenborg and then Glücksburg. Christoffer III, in 1448, died, leaving no children and the Danish monarchy almost died out. Christian I was chosen from a branch of indirect family members. The reign of the Royal Family of Oldenborg lasted for over 415 years, reigning until 1863 when Frederik VII died childless.
Once again, a descendant from the junior branch of the House of Oldenburg was given the role to reign Denmark, Prince Christian IX of Glücksborg. He reigned from 1863 to 1906, and he has concurrently held the titles of Duke of Schleswig, Holstein and Lauenburg. Christian's six children with Louise married into other European royal families, earning him the sobriquet "the father-in-law of Europe". His descendants' royal families were in Greece, Belgium, Norway, Luxembourg, the United Kingdom, Spain, Yugoslavia and Romania. Interestingly, The Act of Succession, 1953, permitted a female to reign, seeing Princess Margrethe become Queen in 1972.
Modern Day Denmark
Today Denmark has a constitutional institution. What does that mean? The monarch, HM The Queen, cannot independently perform political acts. The monarch must 'represent Denmark abroad and be a figurehead at home' and duties consisting of bestowing honours, appointing a prime minister, and family members attending ceremonial, diplomatic, and representational duties. The Kingdom includes Denmark and is not limited to Denmark itself; it includes autonomous territories of the Faroe Islands and Greenland.
The Kingdom of Denmark was united by the 8th century under King Gudfred; however, from the 9th century onwards, it was reunited by the Viking king Gorm the Old and Harald Bluetooth as an elective monarchy. It then became hereditary from the 17th century onwards during the reign of Frederick III.
Today the Danish Royal House is from a princely branch of the family Oldenborg and then Glücksburg. Christoffer III, in 1448, died, leaving no children and the Danish monarchy almost died out. Christian I was chosen from a branch of indirect family members. The reign of the Royal Family of Oldenborg lasted for over 415 years, reigning until 1863 when Frederik VII died childless.
Once again, a descendant from the junior branch of the House of Oldenburg was given the role to reign Denmark, Prince Christian IX of Glücksborg. He reigned from 1863 to 1906, and he has concurrently held the titles of Duke of Schleswig, Holstein and Lauenburg. Christian's six children with Louise married into other European royal families, earning him the sobriquet "the father-in-law of Europe". His descendants' royal families were in Greece, Belgium, Norway, Luxembourg, the United Kingdom, Spain, Yugoslavia and Romania. Interestingly, The Act of Succession, 1953, permitted a female to reign, seeing Princess Margrethe become Queen in 1972.
Modern Day Denmark
Today Denmark has a constitutional institution. What does that mean? The monarch, HM The Queen, cannot independently perform political acts. The monarch must 'represent Denmark abroad and be a figurehead at home' and duties consisting of bestowing honours, appointing a prime minister, and family members attending ceremonial, diplomatic, and representational duties. The Kingdom includes Denmark and is not limited to Denmark itself; it includes autonomous territories of the Faroe Islands and Greenland.
The Crown Prince Family Photo Hasse Nielsen ©
Etiquette of Royal Families
Reception of HRH The Duchess of Cambridge Keld Navntoft, Kongehuset ©
Like most royals, using protocols and etiquette features heavily in a Princess's life, whether at home or in public. Many may think somehow that the individual is already an expert, or a wand is waved, and a magical transformation occurs. The truth is that training and just plain hard work is the secret formula to flawlessly stepping into a royal house that is over 1000 years old. How did Princess Mary do it?
The Language Of Protocol
Protocol is essential for any royal house. Protocol is the official procedure of systems that guides behaviour and human order. Protocols between kingdoms, countries, and people allow for smooth relationships and interactions.
For example, if Princess Mary wanted to write to Queen Elizabeth II, and she knows her personally, there would be no need for her to write to the Queen's private secretary and address the letter to him, as I would.
So, let's say she knew the Queen personally and wanted to communicate with her directly. The protocol Princess Mary would use: the letter would begin with 'Madam' or 'May it please Your Majesty'. The first line would contain 'With my humble duty' and end the letter' I have the honour to remain, Madam, Your Majesty most humble and obedient servant'.
Protocol would dictate that upon being presented to Queen Elizabeth at Buckingham Palace for a state visit, the Crown Princess Mary would curtsy, a short and dignified dip keeping eye contact or bow from the neck (not waist). Conversely, if you are a Danish citizen, the Princess would stand and wait for you to bow or curtsey. If the Royal hand is extended, take it lightly and quickly, at the same time performing a dip or bow.
In Front Of The Camera
You will see Princess Mary using natural and elegant hand movements and always looking straight at the person interviewing her. Using hand gestures creates a natural body movement which then affects your voice it shows that she is confident, comfortable and conversational.
You will find many photos in the media of Princess Mary sitting at charities, presentations and royal visits, sitting visually perfect. Here is how she does it: when seated, the best deportment is sitting in the chair where you are not resting on the backrest. You are, in fact, a fist away and leaning 15 degrees forward, with a straight back. It's best not to have your back super straight, preferably relaxed and natural. If the chair has armrests, remember to keep your arms in and lay your hands on your lap. Using the armrest will hitch your shoulders up, making you look tense, and appear sloppy on camera.
Foot placement is another consideration, affecting your posture and entire body deportment. Having the correct stance is best when talking in front of a camera. You can do this by placing one foot forward and the other back. All these techniques take practice, and the best approach is to use your camera to record yourself.
The Elegance of Etiquette
In all royal households worldwide, etiquette is a prominent feature that families follow. It is simply a code of polite behaviour. Royalty is the face and representative of their country; etiquette allows them to show kindness and mindfulness to people they meet. Etiquette covers many areas such as socialising, navigating a table setting, international customs, and business matters.
Princess Mary has always been authentically ‘herself.’ She shows actual genuine care and respect for the people of the kingdom of Denmark and Australia. She has demonstrated flexibility In moving from Australia to her Homeland to make Denmark her new home. Tenacity as a busy mother and wife… Respect for the role that she married into for the rest of her life... Princess Mary is a princess of grace, style and effortless beauty. She has been able to manage etiquette protocol. Royal life is a life of patroness and representative of the royal family, mother, wife, successfully and dutifully.
The Language Of Protocol
Protocol is essential for any royal house. Protocol is the official procedure of systems that guides behaviour and human order. Protocols between kingdoms, countries, and people allow for smooth relationships and interactions.
For example, if Princess Mary wanted to write to Queen Elizabeth II, and she knows her personally, there would be no need for her to write to the Queen's private secretary and address the letter to him, as I would.
So, let's say she knew the Queen personally and wanted to communicate with her directly. The protocol Princess Mary would use: the letter would begin with 'Madam' or 'May it please Your Majesty'. The first line would contain 'With my humble duty' and end the letter' I have the honour to remain, Madam, Your Majesty most humble and obedient servant'.
Protocol would dictate that upon being presented to Queen Elizabeth at Buckingham Palace for a state visit, the Crown Princess Mary would curtsy, a short and dignified dip keeping eye contact or bow from the neck (not waist). Conversely, if you are a Danish citizen, the Princess would stand and wait for you to bow or curtsey. If the Royal hand is extended, take it lightly and quickly, at the same time performing a dip or bow.
In Front Of The Camera
You will see Princess Mary using natural and elegant hand movements and always looking straight at the person interviewing her. Using hand gestures creates a natural body movement which then affects your voice it shows that she is confident, comfortable and conversational.
You will find many photos in the media of Princess Mary sitting at charities, presentations and royal visits, sitting visually perfect. Here is how she does it: when seated, the best deportment is sitting in the chair where you are not resting on the backrest. You are, in fact, a fist away and leaning 15 degrees forward, with a straight back. It's best not to have your back super straight, preferably relaxed and natural. If the chair has armrests, remember to keep your arms in and lay your hands on your lap. Using the armrest will hitch your shoulders up, making you look tense, and appear sloppy on camera.
Foot placement is another consideration, affecting your posture and entire body deportment. Having the correct stance is best when talking in front of a camera. You can do this by placing one foot forward and the other back. All these techniques take practice, and the best approach is to use your camera to record yourself.
The Elegance of Etiquette
In all royal households worldwide, etiquette is a prominent feature that families follow. It is simply a code of polite behaviour. Royalty is the face and representative of their country; etiquette allows them to show kindness and mindfulness to people they meet. Etiquette covers many areas such as socialising, navigating a table setting, international customs, and business matters.
Princess Mary has always been authentically ‘herself.’ She shows actual genuine care and respect for the people of the kingdom of Denmark and Australia. She has demonstrated flexibility In moving from Australia to her Homeland to make Denmark her new home. Tenacity as a busy mother and wife… Respect for the role that she married into for the rest of her life... Princess Mary is a princess of grace, style and effortless beauty. She has been able to manage etiquette protocol. Royal life is a life of patroness and representative of the royal family, mother, wife, successfully and dutifully.
The Crown Prince Couple received Iceland's Presidential Couple Kongehuset ©
Royal Dining Etiquette
The 50 years anniversary of HM The Queen’s accession to the throne The Queen was celebrated at a private dinner by the closest family members
Photo Keld Navntoft, Kongehuset ©
Photo Keld Navntoft, Kongehuset ©
Royal Invitations
If you or perhaps a charity or organisation, wanted the Princess to be a guest of honour, the invitation would best be made through a member of the royal household, like the Chief of Court of The Royal Household. The details they would require would be the event's nature, place, date, and time. The household manager always has to work alongside the secretarial and service unit. They are professionals and would help you with your guest list, menu and form of dress, and whether the Royal guest(s) could accept the invitation.
The same attention to detail would also be seen and expected in return from you, if you had the good fortune of being invited to any type of royal meal by the Princess, or for the Princess. You would undoubtedly need to respond promptly to any “Rsvp” request. You would need to respond formally, by hand written response, and you response would need to be sent within the required time. There is absolutely no texting nor emailing involved in responding to RSVP’s unless the invitation was texted or emailed to you. This is the same as if you have received a gift from someone.
This once-in-a-life-time type invitation may be for events at either of one of two of the Crown couple's residences… Amalienborg Palace or Chancellery House at Fredensborg Palace. In the time that lies between sending your acceptance and the actual day of your royal experience, you might want to brush up on your European dining techniques, so you don't worry whilst dining about your table manners and can focus on being a sociable and interested guest, conversationalist and listener.
Dining with Royalty
When being escorted into the royal dining room to the dining table, there will be a few things you will need to know. The dining table will undoubtedly be set with exquisite and expensive crystal, porcelain and silverware, so 'accidentally bumping' any dinnerware is not an option.
While you won’t be using any of the famed Flora Danica service, the food you’d be served would undoubtedly be served on porcelain by Royal Copenhagen, the makers of “Flora Danica.” Two years ago, 2020, marked the 230th anniversary of the precious dinnerware. Still as enchanting as when initially imagined, the fine, hand painted porcelain, decorated with Danish flowers, remains one of the world’s most prestigious and luxurious dishes to dine on.
Every individual piece of Flora Danica is still carefully created by hand. Flora Danica has been used at many festive royal Danish occasions throughout the last two hundred years, however, there was always at least one piece lost at each event to breakage, so the exquisite dinnerware was retired from royal use by 2000.
The last time it was seen publicly and officially, it was the 1990 birthday party for Queen Ingrid. The collection - about 1530 pieces in total - is one of the most well preserved and maintained services in the world. It is now mainly used for exhibition.
Danish Food
Danish cooking and food, like all cultures, is a derivative of food that was foraged from the land, that came from trade, invasions and discoveries. For centuries Denmark has had a paddock to plate culinaere. Today, gastronomic travel the Scandinavian countries are popular to try the freshest of fresh seasonal produce such as ocean fish, root vegetables, cabbage, berries, potatoes, rye bread, smoked meat, pickled fish, cheeses, and cakes.
Some notable dishes that you might be served are: K"Rvelsuppe - Chervil Soup, Smørrebrød - Open Sandwiches, Stegt Flæsk Med Persillesovs - Crispy Pork With Parsley Sauce And Potatoes, Fiskefrikadeller - Pan-Fried Fish Patties, Rødgrød Med Fløde - Danish Red Berry Pudding, Dream Cake – Drømmekage.
If you or perhaps a charity or organisation, wanted the Princess to be a guest of honour, the invitation would best be made through a member of the royal household, like the Chief of Court of The Royal Household. The details they would require would be the event's nature, place, date, and time. The household manager always has to work alongside the secretarial and service unit. They are professionals and would help you with your guest list, menu and form of dress, and whether the Royal guest(s) could accept the invitation.
The same attention to detail would also be seen and expected in return from you, if you had the good fortune of being invited to any type of royal meal by the Princess, or for the Princess. You would undoubtedly need to respond promptly to any “Rsvp” request. You would need to respond formally, by hand written response, and you response would need to be sent within the required time. There is absolutely no texting nor emailing involved in responding to RSVP’s unless the invitation was texted or emailed to you. This is the same as if you have received a gift from someone.
This once-in-a-life-time type invitation may be for events at either of one of two of the Crown couple's residences… Amalienborg Palace or Chancellery House at Fredensborg Palace. In the time that lies between sending your acceptance and the actual day of your royal experience, you might want to brush up on your European dining techniques, so you don't worry whilst dining about your table manners and can focus on being a sociable and interested guest, conversationalist and listener.
Dining with Royalty
When being escorted into the royal dining room to the dining table, there will be a few things you will need to know. The dining table will undoubtedly be set with exquisite and expensive crystal, porcelain and silverware, so 'accidentally bumping' any dinnerware is not an option.
While you won’t be using any of the famed Flora Danica service, the food you’d be served would undoubtedly be served on porcelain by Royal Copenhagen, the makers of “Flora Danica.” Two years ago, 2020, marked the 230th anniversary of the precious dinnerware. Still as enchanting as when initially imagined, the fine, hand painted porcelain, decorated with Danish flowers, remains one of the world’s most prestigious and luxurious dishes to dine on.
Every individual piece of Flora Danica is still carefully created by hand. Flora Danica has been used at many festive royal Danish occasions throughout the last two hundred years, however, there was always at least one piece lost at each event to breakage, so the exquisite dinnerware was retired from royal use by 2000.
The last time it was seen publicly and officially, it was the 1990 birthday party for Queen Ingrid. The collection - about 1530 pieces in total - is one of the most well preserved and maintained services in the world. It is now mainly used for exhibition.
Danish Food
Danish cooking and food, like all cultures, is a derivative of food that was foraged from the land, that came from trade, invasions and discoveries. For centuries Denmark has had a paddock to plate culinaere. Today, gastronomic travel the Scandinavian countries are popular to try the freshest of fresh seasonal produce such as ocean fish, root vegetables, cabbage, berries, potatoes, rye bread, smoked meat, pickled fish, cheeses, and cakes.
Some notable dishes that you might be served are: K"Rvelsuppe - Chervil Soup, Smørrebrød - Open Sandwiches, Stegt Flæsk Med Persillesovs - Crispy Pork With Parsley Sauce And Potatoes, Fiskefrikadeller - Pan-Fried Fish Patties, Rødgrød Med Fløde - Danish Red Berry Pudding, Dream Cake – Drømmekage.
The 50 years anniversary of HM The Queen’s accession to the throne The Queen was celebrated at a private dinner by the closest family members
Photo Keld Navntoft, Kongehuset ©
Photo Keld Navntoft, Kongehuset ©
I hope that you have found this editorial series helpful and shown that Mary Elizabeth, Her Royal Highness Crown Princess is a truly wonderful example and most certainly her achievements and the mark she has left for generations to come.
HRH The Crown Princess's 50th birthday Hasse Nielsen ©
A Distinguished School Created Distinguished Leaders Of The World
The thought of a young women’s “boarding school” or “finishing school” can seem old-fashioned to many people. Too few young women realise that a great education, along with the social skills that will allow them to later utilise that education in the world’s finest social circles, awaits them at most of these elite establishments.
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Allenswood Boarding Academy was one such school for young women. It was located in Southfields, Wandsworth, England. Founded in 1883, and in business until the 1950’s, its students hailed from families of the American upper-class and European nobility. Unlike many finishing schools of the era, where the expectation was to marry and eventually be the complement to a notable husband, Allenswood expected much more from their charges.
This school was different. It was a breath of fresh air. It provided a progressive education to its female students. Allenswood’s curriculum included serious subjects in a time when men viewed education as not necessary for women. Headmistress and founder, Marie Souvestre stressed the importance of social responsibility and personal independence. Ms. Souvestre's main aim was for her students to be change-makers and leaders.
The school curriculum taught many traditional subjects of a finishing school: social and dining etiquette and deportment; languages; arts; dance; history; literature; and music. The topics that Madame Souvestre wanted to see her students shine most in, however, were philosophy and critical thinking.
One of Allenswood’s famous students was former First Lady of the United States, the late-Eleanor Roosevelt, who, by all reports, was Madam Souvestre’s favourite student. After leaving, they both kept in contact and she reminded Eleanor not to be “seduced by teas and the balls and social events, (and to) remember who you are and what is truly important.”
Nina Gibson Roosevelt, the granddaughter of Eleanor Roosevelt, states in the 5-part series of “First Ladies” that having attended the academy Eleanor, “began to believe in herself as a woman with convictions and self-confidence to go forward to make her mark on the world.” And Eleanor Roosevelt did just that. She became a clear-speaking voice of America and its women, a campaigner for social justice, a newspaper columnist and a true change-maker.
Although Allenswood Boarding Academy eventually closed its doors in the early 1950s, its legacy has lived on in the young women who left its doors highly educated, poised and polished. Goals which most young women are anxious to achieve in today’s modern world.
This school was different. It was a breath of fresh air. It provided a progressive education to its female students. Allenswood’s curriculum included serious subjects in a time when men viewed education as not necessary for women. Headmistress and founder, Marie Souvestre stressed the importance of social responsibility and personal independence. Ms. Souvestre's main aim was for her students to be change-makers and leaders.
The school curriculum taught many traditional subjects of a finishing school: social and dining etiquette and deportment; languages; arts; dance; history; literature; and music. The topics that Madame Souvestre wanted to see her students shine most in, however, were philosophy and critical thinking.
One of Allenswood’s famous students was former First Lady of the United States, the late-Eleanor Roosevelt, who, by all reports, was Madam Souvestre’s favourite student. After leaving, they both kept in contact and she reminded Eleanor not to be “seduced by teas and the balls and social events, (and to) remember who you are and what is truly important.”
Nina Gibson Roosevelt, the granddaughter of Eleanor Roosevelt, states in the 5-part series of “First Ladies” that having attended the academy Eleanor, “began to believe in herself as a woman with convictions and self-confidence to go forward to make her mark on the world.” And Eleanor Roosevelt did just that. She became a clear-speaking voice of America and its women, a campaigner for social justice, a newspaper columnist and a true change-maker.
Although Allenswood Boarding Academy eventually closed its doors in the early 1950s, its legacy has lived on in the young women who left its doors highly educated, poised and polished. Goals which most young women are anxious to achieve in today’s modern world.
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I'm fascinated by the golden-era of history... Otherwise, the Gilded Age."
- Elizabeth Soos | Founder of Auersmont School of Etiquette
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A period in time marked by great wealth, accumulated by a very few people. People who became not only well-known for their business accomplishments, but their lavish spending. Many became the titans of their industries and their names and legacies remain well-known to this day. Names like Vanderbilt, Carnegie and Astor.
The term 'Gilded Age' comes from a book title by popular American author Mark Twain, who, along with Charles Dudley Warner, referring to the era as a 'Gilded Age.' It was not only a reference to all of the wealth being accumulated by a celebrated few, but the literal gilding which seemed to cover so much of the design, furnishings and personal baubles which came to highlight and define that golden age in history. |
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And golden it was! It was a time where gilding was a feature throughout houses and the dining table. There was no expense spared for entertaining the famous, royalty, society, acquaintances, friends and family. This was the era where the table was carefully arranged with brilliant crystals and cut glass, twinkling together with gilded silverware, set upon fine linens and accompanied by bright floral arrangements.
The United States had been underwritten by major industrial growth. Americans especially came into unbelievable wealth and conjured up every sort of implement possible to make life and dining a spectacular show and have society tongues wagging… in the right way!
What did the Gilded Age mean in terms of etiquette? Etiquette expanded itself to new modern devices of the table, transport and social scenes. It was where old forms of etiquette were adapted or thrown out due to the new modern industrial age and new rising social scenes of the western world.
The United States had been underwritten by major industrial growth. Americans especially came into unbelievable wealth and conjured up every sort of implement possible to make life and dining a spectacular show and have society tongues wagging… in the right way!
What did the Gilded Age mean in terms of etiquette? Etiquette expanded itself to new modern devices of the table, transport and social scenes. It was where old forms of etiquette were adapted or thrown out due to the new modern industrial age and new rising social scenes of the western world.
Figure 1 | Maura Graber Etiquette Collection
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Figure 2 | Maura Graber Etiquette Collection
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THE GILDED AGE TABLE
What would those of the Gilded Age want on their table? Everything imaginable! Let’s take a look……What would the Gilded Age table have seen? Figure 1 displays a few items that we still see today, butter spreader, children's flatware minus a food pusher. Children were encouraged to eat correctly at the table and cutlery was especially made. The food pusher was an item made for children, even up till 1940-1950's. The butter knife has slowly disappeared and today we would use knives straight from the butchers block.
Interestingly the jelly knife is featured in this catalogue. This type of jelly knife would most probably refer to sweet gelatin dessert. The first recorded jelly dessert was in the 18th century book The Art of Cookery by Hannah Glasse. Jelly was found sandwiched between layers of the trifle, a delectable sweet table pleasure.
Figure 2 is the crème de la crème of the Gilded Age. These flatware or serving ware was made for every dish or food that was eaten by those of the time. You are probably wondering why so many different flatware? Those that had money would purchase such products as a display of wealth and the etiquette of the day was that it was a no-no to touch food with your fingers. The flatware featured are as follows: lettuce spoon and fork, oyster fork, small olive spoon and fork, olive fork and spoon. How did the Gilded Age table look like with all these implements on it?
Interestingly the jelly knife is featured in this catalogue. This type of jelly knife would most probably refer to sweet gelatin dessert. The first recorded jelly dessert was in the 18th century book The Art of Cookery by Hannah Glasse. Jelly was found sandwiched between layers of the trifle, a delectable sweet table pleasure.
Figure 2 is the crème de la crème of the Gilded Age. These flatware or serving ware was made for every dish or food that was eaten by those of the time. You are probably wondering why so many different flatware? Those that had money would purchase such products as a display of wealth and the etiquette of the day was that it was a no-no to touch food with your fingers. The flatware featured are as follows: lettuce spoon and fork, oyster fork, small olive spoon and fork, olive fork and spoon. How did the Gilded Age table look like with all these implements on it?
Figure 1 | Maura Graber Etiquette Collection
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Figure 2 | Maura Graber Etiquette Collection
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GILDED AGE PARTY & EVENTS
The Gilded Age was about showing your new found wealth and those who maintained 'old money' also stepped out to let others they were still there. One of the most famous events was noted in the daily paper held at the Astor's 5th Avenue 'double' residence. 300 guests were invited who all were "prominent representatives of New York society". Their invitations noted that they must attend in 'full dress'. What did this mean?
Full dress referred to women dressing in evening gowns with jewellery ordered and shipped from Cartier or Bvlgari via Europe. Wearing together with exotic perfumes from the Orient, highly coiffured hairstyles, silk gloves and an ornate purse. Most likely women would make preparations in getting ready, an all day event with the help of staff. The men would dress in black dress coats with white vest and cravat with accessories such as white gloves, top hat and walking cane.
Full dress referred to women dressing in evening gowns with jewellery ordered and shipped from Cartier or Bvlgari via Europe. Wearing together with exotic perfumes from the Orient, highly coiffured hairstyles, silk gloves and an ornate purse. Most likely women would make preparations in getting ready, an all day event with the help of staff. The men would dress in black dress coats with white vest and cravat with accessories such as white gloves, top hat and walking cane.
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What was served at the Astor's magnificent ball? Using Mrs Astors "solid silver table service" a midnight supper menu was found to serve the following items:
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Consommé à la Princesse
Térapène Filet de boeuf aux champignons frais et truffes Canard canvasback rôti Salade de céleri et laitue Sandwiches assortis Glaces de fantaisies Biscuit glacé biscuit Tortoni Gâteaux assortis Gelée macédoine Charlotte Parisienne Fruits Bonbons Café Champagne Claret Cup Lemonade Poland water |
Clear broth soup
North American turtle soup Beef with champignon mushrooms and truffles Roast Canvasback duck Celery and lettuce salad Assorted sandwiches Ice-cream based recipe Ice-cream with crumbled biscuit and fruit Assorted cakes Fruit salad jelly Cream sponge finger cake Assorted fruits Assorted sweets and nuts Assorted beveridge's including coffee, champagne, claret, lemonade and water imported from Poland |
With the help of Larousse Gastronomique, I have interpreted the dishes that this extravaganza would have served during the early hours of the morning. Why would a French written menu appear in New York? The handwritten menu featured in Europe in royal houses such as King Louis XIV, which still survives today. This menu was written in 1757 where guests were entertained by the king at Château de Choisy, it was placed on the table revealing 4 courses and dessert. This tradition has continued on till today, interesting, Queen Elizabeth has her menus written in French for everyday dining and state events.
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GILDED AGE CLOTHING
The Gilded Age was an age where men, children and women especially wore many layers of garments that flowed elegantly to the floor. Women styles encouraged the use of brightly coloured materials and fabrics with waist altering corsets to 'promote the perfect shape' for the time. Men's fashion garnered the creation of many different suits, hats and accessories. It was a must for those invited, to wear the appropriate clothing for events such as high tea, garden parties, luncheons and formal dining events. Everyone was expected to wear an array of outfits suiting the occasion and styles of the season. Those fortunate to have the backing of wealth, brought with them an assistant who would act as a dresser and stylist, changing dresses, shoes, accessory's, hat's and hairstyles changes during the day to evening, perhaps they even had a Louis Vuitton trunk with these necessary items.
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Most notably of the gilded age fashions was the use of the corsets and bodices. Corsets were made from silk, lace and strong cotton material that had whale bone sewn into it which helped females to achieve the 'figure 8' look. The bodice was tightly laced together, with the help of her assistant and always accompanied a dress, no matter the occasion. The style of the time was called the 'princess line' which originated with Princess of Wales, Princess Alexandra. This style was also called French-dart-line dress which had long panels without a join or separated at the waist. These long seams helped to give its wearer a slimline appearance showing off the 'model' waist together with long sleeves and high neckline.
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Part of the gilded age women's ensemble was to wear cape or otherwise known as a dolman-style-mantle. This allowed for warmth in cool climates and worn inside for short periods of time during a visit. The cape also kept a person warm in a carriage and easy to manoeuvre when getting in and out and up and down stairs.
Hat's was a complimentary must! Hat's came in all sort of shapes, sizes and designs. Hats could have come trimmed with lace, feathers, satin or velvet ribbons. The wearing of hat continued too the advent of second world war. |
Men's style was also as elaborate as women and children's wear. It was popular to wear a morning or frock coat along with a top hat. Those that were middle class wore sack coat which paired with a bowler hat. Later on during the gilded age men favoured single-breasted suits and gracing evening events was the tuxedo.
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The invention of the tuxedo is a tale of two cities. The first story was said to have originated from Tuxedo Park, an upstate New York country playground for Manhattan's wealthiest elite. The second story was that in 1865, King Edward VII commissioned a Savile Row tailor - Henry Poole & Co., to tailor a dinner suit for informal occasions, he would have with family and friends, known to the British as a 'dinner jacket' and the the Americans 'tuxedo'. It was where the tailcoat lost it tail and became a jacket.
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Later in the gilded age, due to good weather, nature and money spent on sprawling estates, women entertained outside whether it be garden parties, trying 'modern' inventions such as the bicycle, or participating in acceptable games such as badminton, golf, tennis, croquet or swimming. Children were encouraged to stay outdoors as it was deemed 'good for ones health'. New clothing was created to accommodate new ventures such as athletic wear and bathing costumes.
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New period drama in the works by the creator of Downton Abbey, Gosford Park and The Young Victoria, Julian Fellowes has a new HBO series, coming soon....
www.hbo.com/the-gilded-age
HBO describes the nine-part series where "the story begins in 1882 — introducing young Marian Brook, the orphaned daughter of a Union general, who moves into the New York City home of her thoroughly old money aunts Agnes van Rhijn and Ada Brook. Accompanied by Peggy Scott, an accomplished African-American woman, Marian inadvertently becomes enmeshed in a social war between one of her aunts, a scion of the old money set, and her stupendously rich neighbors, a ruthless railroad tycoon and his ambitious wife, George and Bertha Russell."
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