​I have always wanted to travel to New Zealand or Aotearoa in the Māori language; many of my school friends and acquaintances come from ‘land of the long white cloud’.  Finally, I booked tickets to go, and I was not disappointed.  When you land, you will meet and see natives from the island and surrounding islands, citizens with British heritage and migrants from around the world.  Even before you leave the airport, it is a relaxed atmosphere, and when you go outside, you will be met with a clean environment, fresh air and very polite people.

The Māori arrived in Aotearoa by canoe around 1350, bringing their Polynesian heritage. Over centuries, their traditions flourished in this isolated land.  Their language, mythology, spirituality and crafts developed a unique character, distinct from other Polynesian cultures.  The European exploration of New Zealand began with Dutch explorer Abel Tasman's arrival in 1642, naming it 'Nieuw Zeeland'. Not till 127 years later, in 1769, that the Englishman Captain James Cook embarked on the first of three voyages to the region.  Following Cook's visits, European whalers, sealers, and traders began frequenting it’s shores, marking the start of ongoing European presence and influence in the region.

Why The Name - Kiwi
Kiwis are known for their laid-back nature.  Why are New Zealanders called kiwis you might be asking.  According to newzealand.com  “In the early 1900s, cartoonists started to use images of the kiwi bird to represent New Zealand as a country.  During the First World War, New Zealand soldiers were referred to as 'kiwis', and the nickname stuck. Eventually, the term Kiwi was attributed to all New Zealanders.”

Culture in New Zealand
New Zealand is a place that time can wait.  Dress tends to be casual, so ditch the suit and tie unless it's a formal occasion.  Whilst travelling around I found that respect is key.  Queues are important, and interrupting conversations is considered rude.  When invited to someone's home, it's customary to bring a small gift, catch of the day (fish or seafood) or a home cooked meal.  Take your shoes off indoors when visiting someone's home, a custom borrowed from Māori tradition.

Māori, the indigenous language, which is used together with English, nationwide.  If you are going to use Māori, make sure you have the correct enunciation of the language as you will be corrected and even scolded for mispronunciation.  Kia Ora! Is there greeting for hello.  Watch newzealand.com for more about this amazing opening to start a conversation with a friendly local.

​​​All About Māori Culture
The Māori culture is an integral part of New Zealand's identity. Here are some key things to remember:
Tikanga: Consists of customs, practices, and values that have been passed down through generations.  These are traditional protocols that guide social behaviour. While you won't encounter them everywhere, being mindful shows respect.

Hongi: The traditional Māori greeting.  It involves pressing noses and foreheads together. If offered a hongi, accept graciously and sincerely.  See YouTube video on traditional greetings.
Tapu: This signifies something as sacred or restricted.  Be aware of signs or instructions regarding tapu areas, it’s important to listen and be reverent of the area.  The Māori are deeply spiritual people, by showing that you have an understanding of their cultures show you are honouring the way they live.

Marae: A sacred meeting place for Māori communities.  Each marae belongs to a specific tribe, or iwi, plays a central role in Māori culture, serving as a place for meetings, ceremonies, and celebrations.  Proper etiquette on the marae involves specific protocols - kawa and ceremonies – powhiri that welcome visitors and incorporate speeches, singing, and often a shared meal - hākari.

Ta Moko: Is the name for traditional Māori tattoo.  This type of body art is a sacred cultural practice deeply rooted in Māori identity and heritage that tells a story that connects them to their ancestors and community.  It is common to see men and woman with tattoo their faces, arms, and legs.  It is very rude to point and stare at anyone with these markings.

Conclusion
It was worth the effort to travel to this beautiful country.  I felt calm and at peace amongst the scenic beauty, culture and its deeply spiritual people.  I was awed by their politeness and willingness to talk. Like newzealand.com’s tagline states: 100% Pure New Zealand, I wholeheartedly agree with it.  (P.S. I am not endorsed by them, I just love their ad campaigns). Ka kite ano! See you later!

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At 354pm, on a sunny Tuesday Chicago afternoon, Bethenny Frankel, Founder of ‘Skinnygirl Cocktails’, philanthropist, American TV personality, and former cast member of Real Housewives of New York, was dressed casually. She was outraged at how Chanel, the uber luxury store, treated her after she was turned away, as she revealed on Instagram.
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What could Chanel have done to minimise a total of six reels (so far) and over 102K views, and counting, of her parody Chanel’s faux pas?  Exactly what global companies such as BMW, L’Oreal, PayPal, Hyatt Hotels and Mercedes have done, and that is to provide their staff training on professional and business etiquette!

Gone are the days of finishing schools and mandatory ‘fork and knife classes’ in the military. In the 90s, I, for instance, found that business etiquette training at TAFE was a rarity.  Today, while free resources abound online, the rise of social media influencers and AI assistants, often with disclaimers about accuracy, can leave us wondering where to turn for reliable guidance.

ResumeBuilder.com, in July 2023, reached out to 1,548 business leaders, surveying them to find out how many businesses will get office etiquette training for their employees. ResumeBuilder.com found that:

• “45% of companies are currently offering etiquette classes;
• 18% will implement by 2024 Of those currently offering classes, two-thirds say they have been ‘highly’ successful
• 10% of those currently or planning to offer classes say the training will be required for Gen Z and new college grads;
• 60% will require training for all employees Business leaders believe Gen Z workers struggle with ’soft’ skills”

Where was it all going wrong for these business leaders, and why are they offering business etiquette classes to their employees?  The Telegraph’s recent article, ‘Hiring Gen Z is a nightmare – they don’t turn up to their first day of work,’ interviewed recruiters who cited issues such as:

• "Turning up late and were wildly unprepared for their interview.
• Talk negatively of former employers and businesses.
• Afraid of getting on the phone instead communicating via email or text.
• Hesitation to put their camera on for video calls.
• Tend to talk and dress in more “informal” ways.
• Ghosting companies on their first day at work."

This shift has created a gap in essential skills, from work-appropriate attire and speaking correctly to writing an email without double meanings or emojis.  Mastering these seemingly simple arts can make a big difference in how employees can be good business representatives.  We can also learn several things from Bethenny Frankel’s and mega stock-market performers.

In a word, that would be soft skills.  You may ask, what are soft skills?  The oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com defines soft skills as “personal qualities that enable you to communicate well with other people”.  Employees should have good personal qualities to communicate with a team, customers, clients, and supervisors, such as interpersonal skills, teamwork, customer service, and presentation skills.

Interpersonal skills, also sometimes called people skills, are incredibly important. They are the foundation of our ability to interact and communicate with others in a positive and productive way.  Employees who build rapport, practice active listening, and demonstrate empathy can navigate potentially tense situations more effectively.

Customer service skills are essential in any role that involves direct or indirect interaction with customers, clients, or the general public. Understanding customer needs, offering solutions, and maintaining a professional demeanour is essential for building trust and generating positive experiences.

Teamwork skills are a set of interpersonal and collaborative abilities that enable individuals to work effectively and harmoniously with others towards a common goal, propagating a good work culture.  Effective communication and collaboration within teams ensure a unified approach to customer service, even in challenging situations.

Presentation skills encompass the ability to convey information and ideas effectively through both verbal and nonverbal communication. These skills involve maintaining appropriate body language, eye contact, and appearance and practising delivery to ensure clarity, confidence, and engagement. Clear, confident communication builds brand image and ensures customers feel heard and understood.

Conclusion
The public dressing down Bethenny Frankel gave Chanel on social media is a stark reminder of soft skills' power in shaping customer experiences. In today's digital age and competitive marketplace, a negative interaction amplified by social media reach can significantly damage a brand's reputation.  Frankel's experience highlights the importance of equipping and investing in staff with strong interpersonal, customer service, teamwork, and presentation skills, regardless of industry. Soft skills are no longer a nicety but a business imperative.  What will you do?

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​In 2023, global retail e-commerce sales reached an estimated 5.8 trillion U.S. dollars, according to Statista.  The Financial Times indicated that retail sales in India were valued at $836 billion.  So, what is it like to shop in a mall or retail store in India?
 
I dread the time that I need to shop. It is an eye-rolling, in-personalised service that lacks initiative.  Strong words you are probably thinking.  My story continues.  Upon entering a store, I will get either of four responses from customer service personnel:

1. I get shadowed by a customer service staff, seemingly watching my every move, waiting me to ask them a question.
2. I have personnel show me clothing I’m not interested in and never ask what I actually want.
3. Personnel are bunched up in a camera-less section talking to each other, very aware of customers entering the store and not caring for customer needs.
4. Staff performing duties, such as stacking shelves or helping other customers, invariably walk or push in front to get to where they need to go.  Yes, that has happened to me many times!

Urgh, it’s a genuinely lacklustre experience.
 
I have found that I get better service with a smile at markets crammed to the hilt and surging with hundreds of shoppers, as opposed to the mechanical and passionless vibe of a retail store.  Here, the motivations and management styles are definitely different.  It’s not all bad.  I have received exceptional service at the Taj Hotel, Mumbai, where the service staff are alert to customers and walk-ins' needs.  This proves that training is key, taken seriously is very effective.  Retail stores should strategically view sales training, like the Taj, as a pivotal tool for managing and enhancing their sales personnel's performance.
 
In the article ‘Service Orientation and Customer Performance: Triad Perspectives of Sales Managers, Sales Employees, and Customers’ by Ho-Taek Yi et al. highlights “sales employees provide physical labor, emotional labor, and sales expertise.” So, how can owners or department heads do to enhance and support their staff to out-perform other stores in great customer service?
 
Verbal Communication 
This is when you use spoken words to convey messages, thoughts, ideas, and information between people. It involves using language to express oneself through speaking, listening, or a combination of both. Effective verbal communication consists of articulating one's thoughts clearly and concisely and actively listening to and understanding the messages conveyed by others. It plays a crucial role in everyday interactions, personal relationships, professional settings, and virtually every aspect of human interaction.
 
Non-Verbal Communication 
Refers to transmitting messages, feelings, and information through forms of expression such as facial expressions, body language, gestures, posture, eye contact, and even clothing choices. Non-verbal cues often complement or reinforce verbal communication, providing additional context and emphasis or influencing clients' emotional states.
 
Etiquette Communication
Yes, various studies widely recognise etiquette as a form of communication, highlighting its critical role in society and interpersonal interactions. Etiquette involves adhering to established norms of conduct to maintain suitable manners and mutual respect, paramount for effective communication within different contexts.  When customers enter a shop, they look for authenticity and an employee’s courtesy, friendliness and dedication to authenticity.  Demonstrating authenticity can transform a customer's negative emotional state into a positive one.
 
Here is an Example
In a department store, verbal communication is evident as the sales associate greets the customer warmly and engages in a dialogue to address their needs. Through clear and concise language, the associate provides product information and offers personalised recommendations, demonstrating proficiency in verbal communication skills. Non-verbal communication is also at play as the associate uses friendly facial expressions, gestures, and body language to convey approachability and attentiveness. Maintaining eye contact and nodding in acknowledgement further enhances the interaction, signalling active listening and empathy. Also, etiquette communication is shown through the associate's professionalism and courtesy throughout the exchange. By respecting the customer's time, offering assistance without being intrusive, and expressing gratitude for their patronage, the associate upholds etiquette norms that contribute to a positive customer experience.
 
Conclusion
In summary, when good customer service communication is used, it creates positive emotions and connections to cultivate brand loyalty in the retail environment.  Don’t be fooled and think one shot of training will the pill that cures it all, it takes time to become proficient in these skills and lots of trial and error when earnestly practiced by staff.  And always remember customers to perceive superior service quality, they require positive service interactions.

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After writing about Mumbai's Rush Hour Madness: A Guide to Using Local Trains and Getting On & Off One!!!  I thought it would be a good idea to inform and tell readers about the second, third, and fourth most used modes of transport throughout India, such as  buses, rickshaws and walking to them!  Oh yes, walking has its hazards here.

Buses in Mumbai
Getting on to a Mumbai bus and getting off of one, is a skill, and you will need to prepare yourself for it, before attempting this tricky manoeuvre. You are probably chuckling to yourself and wondering, “Why? It’s just getting on or off of a bus.” Well, in Mumbai the bus experience for the novice is quite jarring. You may never recover from the experience! I jest, of course, but to be as clear as possible, bus stops in Mumbai are not marked! Familiarize yourself with Google Maps, as it is excellent for seeing them. 

The roads in Mumbai are constantly under maintenance, and the pole that tells you to alight a bus has somehow disappeared. Once you find your bus stop, it is time to check when the bus arrives. I use India’s bus app called Chalo. It is a live bus tracking app, as buses do not and never conform to timetables. The allotted bus numbers may be written in Hindi or English, so do your numerical homework. Once you see your bus in the distance, have at least 20 rupees ready in your pocket, and be sure to have your hands free! Why? Once the bus stops, you have less than 30 seconds to get on. Be sure to hold the side or middle rails. Warning: you will be pushed by people behind and, in my case, one day, body slammed right into the bus.

Once you have successfully gotten onto the bus, congratulations are in order. Take less than a fraction of a second to mentally pat yourself on the back, then you will need to let the conductor know, who will also be squashed between a sea of people, where your final destination will be.

Researching this beforehand will be vital, as you do not want to hold up the conductor's time and your getting yourself to the other end of the bus is essential. You will want to identify a landmark, such as a metro or regular station name, a mall, or famous main arterial road. Once he hands you a printed docket, don’t throw it away, as there could be a second inspector waiting to see if you purchase a ticket as you get off. 

There will be a section on the bus for women and one for men. The section for women is generally on the right side and men on the left. If you are standing and it is peak time, two rows of people will be crammed like sardines in a King Oscar tin in the passageway. Once you have found your place, hold on for dear life. I am convinced that the bus drivers in Mumbai are selected based primarily for their tactical and aggressive driving skills!

Next, shake off that whiplash and prepare to alight the opposite way you came in. You must have all your senses about you as you get off the bus. Before your stop, get ready and line up at the door next to the driver. He will come to a rolling stop; you will see individuals jumping off whilst he slowly puts his foot down on the break. 
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Bus drivers in Mumbai don’t wish to come to a full stop because all of the buses are manual, over 50 years old and they need to grind through those gears to get back to normal speed.  Once you have gotten off the bus, look to your left and then right to make it over the pavement, which, of course, is not there. Motorcycles and rickshaws will be busy getting around the bus to get in front quickly. Scooters and cycles will be beeping and screaming for you to get out of the way with no concern for life.

Auto Rickshaws
I would attest that rickshaws are a fantastic mode of transport and cheap when the bus doesn’t turn up or the train doesn’t service a particular area. To hail a rickshaw, just put your hand out; you will have a rickshaw roll up within a minute. Again, you will tell them what your destination is by using landmarks. If the rickshaw driver agrees, he will nod, which indicates to you to get in, and then he will turn around to push the leaver to start the meter at 23 rupees.

Now I have been in rickshaws where the driver is talking and even video calling family members, watching IPL cricket or YouTubing random videos, even warning a driver who was cooing over his baby daughter not to crash into the back of a stationary truck. This is alarmingly quite normal. Most of these rides will have a little shrine above the driver's head indicating the driver’s religion. That helpful information may come in handy if he fails to pay attention to the vehicles or people in front or to the side of you. 

The driver depends on you letting him know where you need to alight. He will generally know where to stop if it is a station or a mall. If it is, for example an apartment block, kindly let him know when to go to the side and break for you. This can be hazardous to your health. Those working in dangerous jobs such as mining or deep sea cable repair get paid extra because their job is risky. Your danger money comes in the form of travel insurance. You may be wondering why I recommend travel insurance. It is because getting around in Mumbai, especially walking around, is definitely hazardous to one’s health! 

Walking on the Streets in Mumbai
Here is what you need to watch out for when walking the streets of Mumbai: wet concrete, potholes, electrical wires, unfinished and uneven walkways, exposed rebar, animal excretions, people sleeping, those living on the street, rickshaws and motorcycles going the wrong way to avoid traffic jams, and the street vendors with fruits, vegetables or fish sellers crowding the footpaths. 

While you will find that people will blithely go in front of you without a care in the world, children walking home from school will walk in a line, making no room for those coming the other way. In saying this, due to the incomplete footpath, I have myself, even with precautions taken, tripped more than a few times. But Indians by nature are very kind and will help you without making you feel embarrassed, it’s just the way the busy business of getting on with life is here.

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A diverse country with myriad languages and cultures, India boasts a range of traditional greetings. Amidst this diversity, there are a few standard greetings that hold widespread recognition:

• Namaste: This is the most ubiquitous greeting in India, used across the country and understood in most languages. "Namaste" is formed by joining your hands in prayer position at chest level and slightly bowing your head as you say it. It translates to "I bow to the divine in you."
• Salaam: Predominantly used in Muslim communities, "Salaam" is an Arabic word that means "peace." It can be used on its own or as part of the more formal greeting, "As-salamu alaykum," meaning "Peace be upon you." When engaging with Muslims, remember to use your right hand for handshakes.
• Sat Shri Akal: This is a Punjabi greeting used predominantly in the state of Punjab and among Sikhs. It means "God is the ultimate truth."
• Vanakkam: This is a common greeting in the Tamil language, used predominantly in the state of Tamil Nadu and among Tamil-speaking populations. Similar to "Namaste," it involves holding your hands in prayer position as you say it.
• Namaskara/Namaskaram: This is a formal way of saying "Hello" in many South Indian languages like Kannada, Telugu, and Malayalam. The physical gesture is the same as for "Namaste".
• Indian women traditionally shake hands with foreign women but not with men, although this practice may vary among educated and contemporary Indian women.
• Western women can feel comfortable shaking hands with Indian women or Western-oriented Indian men, but they may want to avoid this gesture with traditional Indian men.
• English is widely spoken in India, especially in urban areas and among the younger and educated populations. So, "Hello," "Hi, How Are You?" are also commonly used. ​ 

Always consider the cultural context and the person you're speaking to when choosing a greeting. A sincere and respectful approach is usually well received. Aamir Khan's insightful remarks on the significance of Namaste in Punjab shows the deep-rooted cultural resonance of traditional greetings in India. Through his experience while filming "Dangal," Khan sheds light on the profound role such gestures play in echoing the sentiment of respect and acknowledgment across the colourful nation.

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